1. WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A SPIRITUALLY INTELLIGENT PERSON?
Spiritual Intelligence is not about ‘old age’ religion or ‘new age’ philosophy, and yet an understanding of both is essential. What should preferably define you is not any particular external factor, but your own profound understanding of your inner thoughts and feelings – your intrinsic self – your spirit. Who you are is expressed at work as well as at home. You take yourself wherever you go. This workshop will give you a simple practical guide to developing your S.Q – spiritual quotient.
• Do you want to know what the words ‘spirit’ and ‘spiritual’ mean in your every day life – as a human being?
• Are you seeking practical wisdom that will help simplify your life?
• Are you aware of the links between emotional, physical, mental and spiritual intelligence?
• Would you benefit from a deeper understanding of self and so becoming more conscious, self-aware, free from restriction and fear?
• Do you find daily challenges difficult to overcome on a practical level?
• Would you find it valuable to be able to draw from a vast wealth of wisdom rather than a restricted pool of knowledge?
• Would you like to be able to answer all your own questions without having to turn to others?
• Would you benefit from learning to question and think ‘out of the box’?
• Would you prefer to be the same person at home as at work?
• Would you find freedom in developing the ability to find quick perspective and clarity as well as the ability to be adaptable?
• Would you prefer to make choices consciously thus being in charge of your actions – being aware of your actions and their consequences/impact on yourself as well as on others?
2. HOW TO EASILY IDENTIFY AND OVERCOME YOUR FUNDAMENTAL LIFE LESSONS
Your purpose is the same as everyone else’s in a lifetime; which is primarily to learn, grow and improve. Through identifying your ‘personal ignorance’ or ‘blind spots’ which express themselves first in childhood, you can overcome what you don’t understand about you/others/life. The desired end is a permanent and not a temporary healing – at work and at home.
• Everybody is faced with daily challenges at work as well as at home; are you able to consciously face, overcome and strengthen through them with practical ease?
• How do you cope with an unfaithful spouse or a rebellious child?
• Is your boss or best friend a bully?
• How balanced is your life style – at work and at home?
• Are you too afraid to ask your boss for an increase?
• Does illness, mid-life, ‘empty nest’, retrenchment, death or divorce scare you?
• Are your children suffering because you don’t know how to take your ex- to maintenance court?
• Are you questioning whether or not to believe in God, Meditation, Reiki, Past life regression, Tarot, Astrology or Scientology?
• We can only overcome challenges effectively bringing about long lasting healing when we grow from within – using conscious self-awareness – using effort and dedication.
3. ARE YOU A MARSHMALLOW OR A WARRIOR?
Learn more about the personally empowering benefits brought about by identifying whether you are more in touch with your masculine or your feminine principle. There are many different methods of distinguishing different personalities from each other; but have you ever stopped to think that people label themselves – rather than being labeled as we mistakenly think – very simply, by being either more in touch with their male or with their female principle?
Do you find yourself being limited because you are more intuitive, creative and emotional and not finding left brain logic that easy?
• Are you finding that people at work or at home walk all over you because you are too passive, nurturing or quiet?
• Do people tend to over react to your aggressive controlling ways very negatively?
• Is your husband more of a ‘girl’ than you?
• Are you more sexually assertive than your husband?
• Would you agree: Men are not all macho, emotionally retarded, alpha males who communicate only through their fists?
• Are you able to identify with this: Women are not all passive, emotionally strung out, verbally expressive, intuitive weaklings?
• Would you agree that there is a difference between people; not just between the limiting distinction between just men and women.
4. UNDERSTANDING THE VALUE OF SELF-ESTEEM
“Persons of high self-esteem are not driven to make themselves superior to others; they do not seek to prove their value by measuring themselves against a comparative standard. Their joy is being who they are, not in being better than someone else.” (Nathaniel Brandon- Honoring the Self)
It is vital to understand where you stand in valuing your personal sense of self. You can do nothing in life of much value until you value yourself first and foremost. There is no point in giving to another with any sense of personal lack, because what you are then giving is lacking in value. The importance of self esteem is this simple; it opens us up to the opportunity to live in happiness, love and in freedom. It is however a very conscious choice we need to make.
• Are you comfortable in your own skin?
• Are you open to criticism?
• Do you mostly feel very alive and joyful?
• Can you tell others of your achievements with honesty?
• Can you give and receive compliments graciously and easily?
• Are you able to see humour in life – and laugh at yourself as well?
• Do you become rigid, paralyzed and stressed in challenging situations?
• Do you avoid taking responsibility for your words and actions?
• How often do you have a need to hide?
• Do you move, speak and stand with ease and confidence – are you at ease with yourself as well as with others?
5. GAINING INSIGHT INTO EMOTIONAL/MENTAL ABUSE AND BULLYING
Most victims of abuse find themselves totally caught up in the situation quite unwittingly, and before they even know it. Emotional and mental bullying is insidious and subtle and therefore difficult to identify easily. It can turn so easily into a vicious cycle and a habit not easily broken away from! Of course many people turn a blind eye to abuse for reasons of a more selfish nature; a primary one is not wanting to be seen as interfering or not wanting to seen to be involved with socially unacceptable behaviour.
• How often do you feel weak or disempowered by someone, not know why and have no hard proof or evidence of them doing anything destructive?
• Do you feel any of these symptoms on a daily basis in any particular situation at home or at work: Confused, Loss of memory, Guilty, Fearful, Very angry, Tearful, Fatigued, Lacking confidence, Worthless, Stupid, Suicidal, Lethargic, Frustrated, Physically ill, Need to hide, Cannot face reality, Loss of humour, Drained … physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually?
• Do you find it difficult to identify and cope with the ‘ugly’, ‘mean’, negative side of life?
• Do you find it difficult to set boundaries and say no- especially to manipulative controlling people?
• Do you find it challenging to be self absorbed, selfish or self protective?
• Are you by nature kind, trusting and gullible?
• Are you aware of people around you like this or who are being abused/bullied, but don’t know what to do?
6. UNDERSTANDING THE EGO IS ESSENTIAL IN OUR SEARCH FOR SELF-IMPROVEMENT
The ego; Id. I. Me. Mine. Superego. Identity. Self esteem. Self importance. Ego is the social mask or self image that constantly seeks approval of others and does not want to be humiliated. Ego needs to be the best, or part of the crowd, because everyone is doing it, or not doing it, it wishes to be special, it judges and compares constantly and it does everything in its power to remain strong. We take it wherever we go – to work and back home again…
• Is your need to be right ensuring your being thrown out of meetings/boardroom?
• Do your children suffer a lack of worth because you always have to have the last word?
• Do you worry about what other people think of you?
• Does your role as business owner/mum/spouse define who you are?
• Do you fear being given new information and find yourself automatically shutting down?
• Do you fear showing your vulnerability, especially at work?
• Is confrontation a challenge?
• Is speaking in public scary?
7. UNDERSTANDING YOUR PHYSICAL WORLD – THE MIND/BODY CONNECTION
The understanding of your physical body, death, birth, illness, money, sex, diet, exercise, sleep, breathing and relaxation are all based in the very deep connection between your body and mind. Your physical body constitutes a large part of the external way we experience our world, and thus needs to be kept in good repair. Health is not just an absence of disease, it is a state of balance between the body and mind and our consciousness.
• Do you fear old age; are you convinced that old age automatically brings illness and disease?
• Are you conditioned into believing that ‘mid-life’ assumes crisis, imbalance and loss of power and control on many levels?
• Do you listen to your body, understanding the communication between it and your mind?
• Do you rest enough, knowing when to pause?
• Do you know how much you can fix just by understanding your basic body type?
• Do you realize how much stress you can avoid by understanding what your body type can tell you about your habitual thoughts and emotions?
• Do you know what foods/drinks/emotions/thoughts can balance/heal your body?
• Do you suffer from neck ache; and if so, ask yourself why you carry the world on your shoulders?
• If suffering from nausea, indigestion and acidity ask yourself what angers you and keeps you fearful of all that is new?
• Is your relationship with money healthy and happy?
• Are you content with your sex life?
8. MATURING EMOTIONALLY ALLOWS CLEAR DECISION MAKING – AT HOME AND AT WORK
As you mature physically, spiritually and intellectually through life so must you pay attention to maturing emotionally. In order to achieve this you must look at your emotional history and its crossroads. When you get your emotional self out of your own way, you become objective, dispassionate and clear in your decision making – at home and at work.
• Do your emotions overwhelm you at home/work?
• Do you find certain patterns and habits limit you in your daily life?
• Do you find that your boss/partner/spouse/best friend/colleague remind you of your parents or childhood?
• Do any childhood memories still disturb you?
• Are you able to take a neutral stance in conflict situations?
• Is it easy for you to find balance and harmony in life?
• Are you able to stand still in the middle of a crisis and think clearly?
• Does being focused and decisive come easily to you?
9. THE BENEFITS OF VISITING THE SPIRITUAL ASPECT OF LIFE EVERY DAY
Learn more about:
• The need to be still
• How to live in the moment
• Resting your mind
• The concept of God
• New age philosophies and beliefs
• Freedom from limitation
• Raising levels of consciousness
• The benefits of the above: a growing sense of serenity, balance, wisdom, clarity and peace of mind.
10. A HIGH I.Q. IS HIGHLY PRIZED IN TODAY’S WORLD – BUT IS IT ENOUGH?
It is wise to understand the workings of your own mind simply because your thoughts drive nearly all of what you do. Your thoughts, feelings, words and actions make up your behaviour and how your express yourself in the world. It also represents how other people view you. Your thoughts therefore control you most of the time. The goal is to be in control of your own thoughts, with no-one being in charge of them and no need for you to be in control of another’s.
A high I.Q is something that is highly prized in today’s world. It is however only one aspect – that of reasoning ability – needed in the overall development of the intellectual mind. The brain and the mind are linked but are not the same thing. The Western world tends also to put emphasis on developing the conscious mind and not the subconscious mind, although the latter is more powerful.
An essential ingredient to a healthy mind is in remaining comfortably open and receptive. It also must learn to analyze, discriminate, think creatively and originally and not allow too many externals to influence and confuse it. The mind operates best when uncluttered by conditioned and habitually repetitive thoughts. The mind functions best when uncluttered by overwhelming emotions. The mind needs rest, sleep, meditation/contemplation time, correct breathing and food, correct stimulation, formal as well as informal education, creativity, valuable company and beneficial leisure time.
11. WHAT IS YOUR TRADITIONAL ROLE AS A WOMAN IN THE MODERN WORLD – AT WORK AS WELL AS AT HOME?
There is a need for greater insight into the traditional as well as the modern roles that men and women play today. For thousands of years the world has been male dominated and controlled by the male principle. With the woman’s liberation movement having been activated in the 18th century it is safe to say that many women today have come to “wear the pants in the house”. These changes have been essential, but as much as the world was out of kilter before-hand, it is in grave danger of the scales being tipped into the opposite imbalance! The traditional roles have almost been switched.
• Do you find it difficult for both you and your partner to be out at work?
• Do your children suffer as a result of your both being out at work?
• Is there confusion about who plays which role at what time at home?
• Who is mom and who is dad?
• How clear is your communication with each other?
• Do you find yourselves becoming sexually frustrated?
• Is the romance still there – how often do you spend good quality time together?
• Does marriage often feel unfair, with one partner appearing to take more responsibility?
• Do you find yourself in competition with your partner?
• Do you resent time away from your family?
Relationships can be seen as the very best ‘fast forward’ path to self realization or self actualization.